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How To Make Your Kids Love Haircut

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How To Make Your Kids Love Haircut

Does your toddler scream and cry during haircut? It's pretty scary for them, as it's definitely one hell of a ride, sitting on that salon's seat, hearing the razor goes ZEEEEEEEE. Well, here's how we conquer that universal fear, by choosing the kid-friendly salon. The trick is distraction and play. Once their eyes lock onto the TV (cartoon) or their minds start to wander into that imaginative car's land while sitting on race car chair, cutting their hair can be as easy as a breeze.

The salon we went to is specially designed for kids. Toys filled waiting room, fun salon chairs, cartoon videos, treats and snacks, and balloons!!! This is a mini theme park on it's own. Now they love haircut and can't wait for the next trip there. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

LITTLE MUNCHKINS KIDS SALON

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谁说办不到

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谁说办不到

谁说有三胞胎就一定要有女佣?或没有帮手就哪儿都去不了。自从三宝贝诞生以来,就一直听到“你办不到的”,“你们一定会很辛苦”,“怎么可以没有多 一个帮手”等等,先入为主的评语。但是事实证明,办不办的到,全在于个人的心志与恒心。若还没有尝试就断定做不到,那就永远不能成功。刚来美国时,我们也 觉得一定要有帮手,所以家婆一回新后,我们便急忙安排我妈过来,而她一回国后,我们又安排家婆再过来,这样来来回回几趟后,我们便开始放松评率。现在家婆 与我妈回国后间中的“无帮手”空档,甚至长达五个月之久。

周日老公上班我上学做实习生时,孩子便到幼稚园上课,周末有空,我们一定会带孩子出门。我们外出也不宠他们,不用推车,三兄妹手牵手自个儿走。买东西到收银台他们得自己付钱,玩碰碰车他们也得自己把票交给看守员,从小就让他们学习独立不怕生。

也许是我们被美国新手爸妈们的独立而感染了,因为他们十之八九都没有女佣或父母的帮忙。美国人一到十八岁就离家到外生活,从小就很独立不靠父母。我 们逛超市时就常常看到妈妈一手牵着孩子,一手推着货品推车,车上幼童椅坐着另一个孩子,有的甚至还用婴儿背带,背着多一个宝宝。所以谁说办不到呢?办不办 得到只在于你。

Sliding down giant tractor, roaming around the farm in silly moo moo cow train, navigating Daddy "driver" of the car aka pull cart, watching farm animals performing cute stunts... we are back at our favorite Underwood Family Farm in Moorpark, California. Highlights of the day: Pick your own fruits!!

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父亲大人

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父亲大人

不久前听教会牧师讲道,叙说他年轻时有一度因生意工作忙而忽略了与孩子相处的时间。孩子们希望他能陪他们到图书馆去,但他放工回家只想休息所以总是拒绝他们。后来牧师娘便提醒他要多陪陪孩子。牧师听后回太太说:“去图书馆?妳可以带他们去啊?”牧师娘便说:“你带他们去就是不一样!”

对啊,妈妈与爸爸对孩子的影响就是不一样。不信?妈妈与爸爸讲同样的笑话或读同一本故事书,效果就是不一样。所以嘛,肚子饿了找妈妈,无聊想玩找爸爸;生病害怕叫妈妈,高兴撒娇叫爸爸。妈妈我也很想被他们像明星般崇拜,但爸爸就是比较受欢迎啊。唉,我也只好认命了,哈哈。

话说回来,上周旧邻居从狮城来美公干,顺道来我们家吃饭,他看到我们家爸爸放工回家还有精力配孩子吃饭,与他们玩,跟他们谈话,便说这很难得,值得表扬。是啊,我们家爸爸真是不错,每天放工回家都快累得不行了,还得嘻嘻哈哈配孩子们,帮我一起跟他们洗澡,哄他们上床睡觉。隔天又得帮忙准备他们起床,开车送他们到幼稚园,周末还得费尽心思带一家人出门玩,爸爸这份差事真是不简单。想当年,我爸也如此,不仅让我感激万分,也让我了解到,他的陪伴与引导成就了如今的我。所以爸爸们,谢谢你们,你们与妈妈一样伟大!

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Pause Before You Yell

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Pause Before You Yell

Waking up at 7+ on Sat morning and keep repeating "Mummy ___, mummy ____, mummy ___ ..." Till I acknowledge him with "good job" etc.soon they will be asking "mummy why ___" and it's time 3. Faint.>.<

Posted by WinnieTriplets on Saturday, January 11, 2014

I admit I'm not perfect. I'm impatient at times, and I yell when I want to get things done fast. But soon I realize this is taking a tow on me and my kids, especially when their little minds are starting to get emotional, just like how Riley's emotions get confused in INSIDE OUT. My sister cousin taught me something invaluable when she visited me last Spring. She taught me how to "ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR CHILD'S FEELINGS". She demonstrated how patient she is with her 2 toddlers, by not yelling when they are up to mischief. And surprisingly, they listened after they realized "mummy understand me". She showed me love and care in disciplining kids.

"Well, kids have feelings and thoughts too" she smiled.

So the next time before you yell, please please please PAUSE. Understand the situation and control your mood (you are an adult right?).

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Rewards and Treats

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Rewards and Treats

Some kids have never tasted chocolate, candies, juice, french fries, or even McDonalds till they are much older. Some kids ate so much of these stuff that their baby teeth fell off prematurely. Rule of the thumb, eating in MODERATION.

And there are parents who strictly forbid iPad, TV, computer games in toddler-hood. They will share highly intelligence articles on Facebook on how destructive these modern devices are. Well, Roger works for Disney Animation, can you imagine how these parents hated him for creating highly addictive "Let It Go" movies? Hahahaha! Rule of the thumb again, playing in MODERATION.

So, I realize that the seemingly outdated psychology theory which I learned in Uni years ago was quite useful after all. It's "positive reinforcement vs punishment" Reward your kids with moderate amount of treats and play time when they are behaving correctly is after all, not a modern catastrophe. Don't be too hard on yourself or your kids, let them grow up happily and healthily. As for those Facebook articles, I view them as "modern chain letter", hahahahahaha.

Positive Reinforcement: adding something in order to increase a response. (e.g. adding a treat will increase the response of sitting; adding praise will increase the chances of your child cleaning his or her room. The most common types of positive reinforcement are praise and rewards.
Negative Reinforcement: taking something negative away in order to increase a response.  Imagine a teenager who is nagged by his mother to take out the garbage week after week.  After complaining to his friends about the nagging, he finally one day performs the task and to his amazement, the nagging stops.  The elimination of this negative stimulus is reinforcing and will likely increase the chances that he will take out the garbage next week.
Punishment: adding something aversive in order to decrease a behavior. The most common example of this is disciplining (e.g. spanking) a child for misbehaving. The reason we do this is because the child begins to associate being punished with the negative behavior. The punishment is not liked and therefore to avoid it, he or she will stop behaving in that manner.
Cited from Dr. Christopher L. Heffner

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分不开

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分不开

三胞胎就是三胞胎,总是分不开。不论是出门也好,上托儿所也好,去那里都要在一起。不是我们刻意安排,但若少了任何一个,其他两个便会呱呱叫。更夸 张的是,在托儿所吃饭时,他们也要同桌吃,还要排排坐在一起,老师也拿他们没辙。若其他小朋友要跟他们挤在一块儿吃饭,他们还不肯嘞。托儿所校长还对他们 每天都同时“便便”的生理时钟感到惊叹不已,总是兴奋地向其他的家长说:“这真是太神奇了!”

相亲相爱,从不孤独,玩耍时总有个伴固然是好事,但问题来了。就因为做什么事都要在一起,任何一个有的玩具或食物,其他两个都要。如老大在骑脚车, 老二跟妹妹便会争着要骑,老大在喝果汁,其他两个便会吵着要喝。这也就是为什么我们买玩具得买三份相同或类似的,出门时都要大包小包地带齐三人份的果汁、 饼干、等。

唯一分开的时候,便是晚上睡觉时。吃了饭,冲了凉,妹妹便会一手抱着她的粉红熊熊,一手拉着妈妈,嘴里叼着奶瓶,向哥哥们说“Good Night”(晚安),便头也不回地到她的睡房,关上门,还自己上锁(因为不想哥哥们进来),只要妈妈陪她直到她睡着为止。哥哥们呢,则到男生睡房,听爸 爸讲故事,陪他们入眠。哇,到了晚上总算分开了,但明天起来又得“粘”在一起了,哈哈!

Our 23mth trio loves Mickey Mouse club house so much, they jumped in joy when we bought them the soft toys and went into a crazy dance mode when we turn on the theme song, spinning, swaying, jumping, shaking their butts, LOL! Asher (boy) holding Minnie Brayden (boy) holding Donald Charlotte (girl) holding Mickey FOLLOW US!

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难兄难弟

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难兄难弟

小宝宝竟然会讲义气,没想过吧?是啊,幼儿院校长是这么说的没错。怎么会呢?两岁半的小孩连牙都还没长齐,怎么会讲义气呢?更何况他们天天都吵架打 闹,不是为了抢玩具,就是为了争宠,很难想象他们会肝胆相照啊。可是,就是这么一回事。这回,大哥还咬伤了幼儿院的小朋友。但我不仅不生气,反而还觉得窝 心,对方妈妈也没怪罪他的意思。

事故发生时,大伙儿正在玩积木。同班的卢卡斯因为嫉妒二哥把积木叠得又高又稳,自己的却平平倒塌,便用积木块狠狠地往二哥的后脑勺敲过去。说时慢,那时快,这一幕被一旁的大哥看到了,气得他一把抓住卢卡斯的手咬下去。

虽然我不在场,但可想而知,当时一定是哭声四起。好在幼儿院阿姨们都经验丰富,不一会儿功夫便解决了小朋友们的纠纷,便教导他们拥抱道歉,事后大家又嘻嘻哈哈地玩成一团,好似没事一样。

奶奶听闻后,高兴地称赞大哥体现奋不顾身的行为,说这难能可贵的兄弟情是与生俱来的,还叫爸爸要多多向他学习。也许是三胞胎的缘故,虽然他们天天打 架,但若有任何一位出了状况,如生病了没一同上学,他们便会哭闹不休,拼命喊对方的名字。我们这才:“哟,感情这么好啊!平时怎么看不出来?”所以我们家这对宝贝,还真的是名副其实的难兄难弟啊!

It's the end of school term and some of the preschool classmates are graduating, so the school organize a summer BBQ and the kids have so much fun dancing, eating, and of course playing.

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看电视

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看电视

对于让小孩看电视会变笨的说法,我们家可是情非得以。自宝宝们对电视感到好奇以来,当他们吵起来时,我们就会扭开电视,引开他们的注意力。爸爸起初 很紧张,因为有专家指出让小孩在两岁前看电视会提高得注意力缺陷多动障碍(ADHD)的机率。但宝宝们实在是太吵闹了,所以我们也迫不得已。夏天哥哥一家 来访,侄儿侄女们因平时看电视的时间被限制,所以特爱我家“看电视自由”的权力,回国时还依依不舍,不肯走呢!

很庆幸的,如今宝贝们两岁半了,也没得什么多动障碍症或变笨。相反的,因为现今的幼儿节目都富有教育素质,他们还通过了益智卡通学会了数字、英文字 母、颜色、形状、等等。想当年我小时候,第五与八波道就只有芝麻街、嘀嗒车,等几部益智节目,哪像如今还有专为宝宝而设的育幼台。一扭开,便是数不尽的益 智卡通与教育节目,真是太幸福了。所以80年代的小孩通常到了五岁才会ABC,若与今日的小孩比起来,就太差劲了。

而现今的儿童,在掌握科技方面,也相当惊人。不久前我的宝贝们就学会了使用iPad平板电脑,爱到youtube看卡通。奶奶见状,便买了类似 iPad的儿童平板玩具电脑LeapPad给他们。这对高科技三胞胎,晚饭后便电脑在手,观看他们喜欢的卡通片。天啊,他们还不到三岁啊!

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爸爸起床

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爸爸起床

爸爸最爱赖床,一到周末要带宝宝出门,早上明明醒来了,就是不愿起来,总爱说“多睡五分钟”。过了许久,还是躺在床上,一而再,再而三地叫他,他还是那句 “五分钟”。等到我与家婆忙里忙外,喂宝宝们吃过了早餐,换好了尿布与衣服,穿好了鞋袜,梳好了头发,打点好了一切,他才慢条斯理地从楼上走下,说“有什么需要帮忙吗?” 这种含糊敷衍热心助人的精神与爱赖床的性格像极了三岁小孩,真是让人又好气又好笑。
最近,我发现一个很管用的方法,那就是请宝宝们叫爸爸起床。三个小不点对这项任务可认真呢,一会儿大声叫喊,一会儿用力拍打,一会儿在床上翻滚弹跳,毫不 留情。上周末,不论孩子们怎么闹,爸爸还是不起床,懒懒地躺在被窝里查看手机资讯。这时,总爱不按牌理出牌的老大,就是不罢休,猛地跳上床,朝爸爸的脸上喷口水,这可把爸爸“叫”醒了,哈哈!宝宝们见爸爸终于起床了,好不开心,大声欢呼,热情拥抱,爸爸也不生气,反而还呵呵大笑。
若你家也有个爱赖床的睡虫,同时也有淘气的小孩,与其把自己累坏,不妨试用这个方法。被吵醒的大人即不会生气,还会觉得好笑。小孩呢,又能训练他们培养永不放弃的精神,又能增进亲子关系,真是一举两得呀!

Kids jumped on the bed and waking daddy from his dream, haha! http://WinnieTriplets.com

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打架鱼

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打架鱼

我家三宝是名副其实的打架鱼,一 玩起来少不了打打闹闹。有一晚,为了抢新玩具而大喊大叫,害得好心的邻居艾玛老奶奶吓得猛敲我家大门,还以为出了什么事。门一开,好奇的宝宝们一同跑到门前说"嗨",这才让她放下心来。

其实,幼童在成长过程中,打架是常有的事。尤其是有超过一个孩子的家庭,每天吵闹不在话下。而双胞胎与三胞胎更糟糕,由于都属同龄,不能用懂事兄长让弟妹的管教方式,所以同样的玩具或衣服通常要买三套,不然就会争个你死我活。

那,孩童争吵,大人是否要干涉呢?育幼院有位妈妈就曾因为帮孩子出头而得罪了另一位妈妈。就这样,孩子们之间的斗气竟演变成大人们的纷争。往往,当 你正为孩子被欺负而殴气时,几分钟前还在打架的两个小家伙又开始嘻嘻哈哈玩在一块,真是让人又好气又好笑。象我家三个小淘气,越打感情就越好。所以我通常 会在教了他们什么是对错后,让他们自己解决纠纷。

还记得有一次在美国的室内游乐场,有位小男生被欺负了,哭着找妈妈诉苦,但那位洋妈妈却说:"这是你的事,你自己解决吧!"跟着,便鼓励他象欺负他 的小朋友理论。我那时刚到美国,还是头一回目睹这种管教方式,真是看傻了眼。所以打架并不是件坏事,能从打闹中学习成长,那才是最重要的。

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